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How Are You Is Not The Right Greeting

Rickey Stokes

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Posted by: RStokes
Date: Nov 27 2016 8:24 PM

Over the last several weeks people have lost loved ones through sudden tragic circumstances. Some were adults and some were children.


As you meet these people that are your friends, you mean well when you ask "how are you?" "No, really, how are you?"


That is not the questions to ask. A honest answer from them is " really, really, how do you think I feel when I have had my heart ripped out of my body suddenly. I mean, really you have to ask me that and expect me to answer that question?"


We all mean well. We all love them and want to be there for them. 


But the appropriate action when you see someone or your co-worker returns to work, as you walk by pat them on the back and just say " love ya " and walk on. Believe me, if they want to talk they will. But do not pressure them.


If you notice them having a meltdown, quietly pull their door to, and as you do say I love you and if you need me holler. And walk on. There will be times something triggers their emotions and will cause a meltdown. And you never know what it will be.


When you see them in church, at the grocery store, at the ballpark or restaurant, as you walk by, just say, "love ya" and do not stop them and make them think they have to discuss it.


Like a child battling cancer. Find out through friends how the person is doing, but the family just let them know you love them. If they need to talk they will.


But remember, the grieving family relives the tragic loss or battle with the dreaded disease every waking minute and most dreams. Do not make them explain it to everyone they come in contact with.


A family recently told me they would avoid people who were friends in the grocery store. They did not not want to talk about it.


So please respect and let the simple words, "Love 'ya" and walk on be the greeting. Do not make them dread life more than they already dread.


To the ones walking the walk, I hope my expression and explanation is what you would want to say.


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